smittenbyu | wedding gowns....

I am getting rather tired of explaining to people that we don't wear wedding gowns in a Hindu wedding, at least during the rituals. Friends from Malaysia have been forever pestering me about how my gown looks. These days even the Budhist Chinese (Malaysian) are dawning on the famous white wedding gown often seen worn by Christians in place of the cheong sam. They often get quite elaborate with the dress, hair & makeup, looking like cinderella. I remember when I first mentioned to my friend (who's Malay), she sent me a link to a whole bunch of websites showing wedding gowns. It's hard for them to imagine that not every girl wants to look like cinderella. And when I shared the news that I will be wearing sarees, she suggested I still go window shopping for them any how. @#$#! I understand they just want to share the excitement and they do it in the way they best know how. But I am just ranting. I guess it also goes to show the lack of Indian friends in this circle of people. sigh.

I will be wearing beautiful sarees for the wedding & a gaghra/choli for the reception!!!! No wedding gowns!!!! And my hubby-to-be will be wearing a silk dhoti during the ceremonies & a sherwari suit for reception. No suits/tuxedos (which is quite common in Bangalore wedding receptions)!! It's not that it's not nice...oh they are.... just this is something different and nice as well!