Find a Grave

Jul. 18th, 2017 11:27 pm
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That was the theme of the day. Mom wanted to find her grandparents in one cemetery, her mother's sister and brother in another and to show me my paternal great grandparents in a third. This last one was easy enough as they knew where they were but for some reason we've never gone to them which is bizarre because it's the same cemetery as my paternal AND maternal grandparents. Dad’s family is odd, not particularly close in some ways and very in others but why in the world we’ve never been to his grandparents’ grave and had to be told about them by his cousin earlier this year is anyone’s guess.

We then went to Fairview Cemetery in Burgettstown to look for the Ms (my great grandparents on Mom’s father’s side) with only knowing ‘they’re by the trees.’ Um tehre are many trees here and all five brothers spelled their surname differently, don’t ask because I have no idea why. We didn’t find them but I suggested find-a-grave to see if we could locate it that way. I will say I want to spend more time in the cemetery (which is directly across from the h.s. football field I spent 4 years marching in but I never went to the cemetery). It’s a strange cemetery. The graves are higgly piggly not lined up in any way. They’re perpendicular to each other, parallel, practically on top of one another. Then there’s a section of tiny headstones with numbers so pauper graveyard but there’s SO many of them, too many for a small town. Prison? Asylum? I truly need to know so I’ll have to investigate it.

Then we went to St Patrick’s cemetery in Oakdale. My great grandfather, Giovanni and his son, Libertino share a headstone there but in the last decade or so no one has gone out there sadly. Worse, Grandmother’s siblings Mary and Joseph who died of flu in the same week are there but no one knows where. “over the hill near the road” was as close as Grandma would ever say. Why she never found them or put up a marker is anyone’s guess.

Mom misplaced the grave in her mind but I hadn’t. I found John and Albert (their Americanized names) and the grave was in shockingly good shape except another headstone from up the hill had fallen and landed against their stone.

Find a grave had zero info on Mary and Joseph nor the Ms nor my dad’s relatives in Fairview I didn’t even know about until we got back. I’m very annoyed that almost all census data is no longer free.

But there was a bit of story fodder in all of this. Returning to the car, I found a grave that said Elizabeth & Theresa (mother and daughter) and elizabeth’s date of death was listed as ‘unknown.’ Oh the questions that spawns. And in the other graveyard was a tombstone entirely in Greek. Neat.

The worst part of it was it was 92 today but with the humidity it felt like 100. Whee.

I'm disappointed

Jul. 17th, 2017 09:16 pm
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By the whole Doctor Who thing. I'm not exactly disappointed that it's a woman. I expected it (though I would much rather they had gone with an Asian or African man but whatever). I actively dislike the actress. She bores me to tears in Broadchurch and the fact the man putting out Broadchurch is the new showrunner for Who makes me nervous. Did she really 'beat out' the competition (because her lifeless portrayals on Broadchurch lead me to disbelieve that) or is she his buddy?

But that's NOT the disappointing thing. No it's the fights and name calling. I've been called a woman hating person who doesn't get the meaning of SF and should just 'shut up and stop whining.' THanks for the bullying.

The good news today is my BFF is heading out here this weekend. That makes me happy.

And since I had so many more writing links, let me share those.

5 reader types


promoting your book

write what you feel

more on platform and this one bugged me a bit. Really now we need a podcast or youtube channel

the unglamorous life of a writer

say yes to obsession

writing super bad villains

more dualities that can replace good and evil

meaningful subplots

And the last two are from Chuck Wendig so expect the foul language.

having a bad writing day

staying motivated in a tough world

Splinters of Silver - editing nothing

Blood Red - Edited up to ch 24

Steampunk Holiday - sent off for consideration

Behind Blue Eyes - back burnered

Horror anthology - gave up

Haunted Hocking

8726 / 60000 words. 15% done!

Yearly Word Count

19979 / 100000 words. 20% done!

Writerly Ways

Jul. 16th, 2017 10:06 pm
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In lieu of saying anything meaningful about writing, how about I share this. (Also if anyone is willing to read and review on Amazon/GR PM me please and I can arrange it)

Blurb Detective Roy Connolly never expected to find real elves and murder at his local anime convention.

Seeking a bonding experience with his formerly estranged son, Sion, a crown prince of the elves, takes him to something they both enjoy: a human anime convention. They both like humans and all their geeky creations so Sion anticipates an enjoyable weekend. He never expected an enemy assassin, armed with only a description of Sion's cosplay, to start murdering his way through the convention.

Detective Roy Connolly, a closet geek, heads to the same anime con without his friend, Amelia. He's surprised to find one of the most handsome men he's ever seen cosplaying in the same anime style as his own, and even more delighted that Sion can't keep his hands off him. Throwing caution to the wind, Roy jumps into a whirlwind relationship only to find himself in the cross hairs of an assassin.

Buy link You can find Conned here

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And now on to the links

Story Arcs

formatting ebooks

self pub success story

best time to publish your book (though I wonder if this applies to LGBT stuff as it's a smaller market in the first place.

And from Betty: earn the back story

successful serial platforms

writing in an unfamiliar setting

ways to bring characters together

TOO tired from the graduation party to do more.

Lily fest

Jul. 15th, 2017 01:15 am
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It felt like a FLorida festival because it was 90 out with 90% humidity It was supposed to be storming but luckily it didn't. My GPS took me a new way to the Bishop Educational Garden, so very remote but I did find where two of the hiking sites I wanted to go explore are. I will say Little Cola Rd sucks. It's supposed to be two way traffic but is barely enough for one car with a huge ditch on one side and a cliff on the other..

It was a muddy mess and so humid my entire body was wet. I wanted a) lilies b) to hear Lone Raven c) Christmas shop.

I actually felt bad for Lone Raven. I think the weather report coupled with the fact it's Friday kept people away. They were there for three sets (I got to hear the middle one) and I could count the audience on one hand. I did get eaten alive by mosquitoes. I enjoyed the set but for that little audience and that much humidity I did feel bad. I did get to talk to them which was nice but it was too miserable to pull out my cd and get it signed. Everyone looked melted.

It took me forever to get a lily because choices. I picked the Catherine Woodbury which is very fragrant and a rebloomer that I can barely shove somewhere. The other was tiny and won't probably bloom for a year or two named Judith which is my mother's name and I'm giving it to her.

I also found a beautiful dichroic glass bracelet for her for Christmas/birthday and a silver wire tree on a quartz geode for her. I also got some awesome, expensive truffles that I need to take a picture of and a neat thing to hang from my stuff here on the porch that I didn't need to buy but I did. I also got an air plant.

In spite of the heat and nausea from the heat it was a good day until I came home and depressed myself by typing in the wrong number in the max price filter and found the absolutely perfect house for me, right where I want to live this house in fact. BUT it's out of my price range. You know I don't mind when they're out of my price range by a lot but this isn't that far out of my range, just enough to be heart breaking.

It's over

Jul. 13th, 2017 10:47 pm
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We've made our picks. It wasn't as contentious as I feared and that's all I really want to say about it.

I'm pretty exhausted by this and we closed the bar down tonight (which closes shockingly early).

Tomorrow it's supposed to rain all day which kills me because I wanted to go to the lilyfest but probably won't.

I thought I had more to say but I guess I don't. Well I do but I'm too tired to form words.

THough this made me smile. An article I'm reading the author is Pious Thomas. The thoughts of how do you end up with that first name....

Too Damn Hot

Jul. 12th, 2017 11:00 pm
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I wasn't well today. Mom called and woke me at 10 this morning and I was barely able to keep awake. I went to the bank to deposit the check for my conference (huzzah they gave me 1400 so only 500 was on me!) and then up to Chillicothe to look for a) sleeper sofa for the back room b) recliner for the living room.

Halfway there I'm in the worst traffic jam I've ever seen in this area because they're blasting a hill. I have no idea why (it was even worse on the way back). It was SO HOT I immediately got sick especially after lunch. However it occurred to me I only ever go to Bridge street where the stores are. I've never been to the historic side which is silly. Chillicothe was Ohio's first capitol. there is history here (in spite of the fact it smells bad(paper mill) and is pretty run down now.)

I ended up at the green tree restaurant I liked the history of it (points to website). I got two appetizers as I wasn't in the mood for a 10$ sandwich. The three cheese rosemary quiche was yummy but the spinach pancakes were undercooked raw flour.

I wasn't too happy with the furniture I saw and they wouldn't deliver the thing INTO the house until I paid two fees (the first payment only sends it to 'curbside.')

By the time I got some groceries and got home, I was so sick from the heat it took three hours in the a/c and a fan before I felt not bad.

WHich means all the cleaning (and writing) I wanted to do didn't happen. I've explained to Mom that when she gets here the living room will still be trashed and naturally she doesn't grasp this (and telling me I have too much stuff isn't helping, of course I do. Like I somehow don't know this) I tried and failed to find my landlord so I don't know what's going on there.

It's been a weird day

Jul. 12th, 2017 12:33 am
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Still having trouble sleeping. I did get my task chair (the box is huge), my new fan works but that's not the weird part.

That came much later. We had the second interview...she knew the person who's job she's interviewing for (because that's not awkward). She didn't do nearly as well but I've learned I dislike every part of this. The second choice declined an interview then emailed us today begging to change his mind (sorry). All I can see is the poor job market and wondering what happens to the ones we don't choose etc.

When we took her to dinner the server was my student who lives here who told me my apartment complex has been sold. I didn't know so I need to talk to the land lord. I'm not tremendously worried about the rent going up to where I can't afford it but I AM worried about them coming in and saying I need to get teh hoard out of here. I hate uncertainity. I spent the rest of the evening house hunting and finding nothing I'd want in my price range (the adorable house dad found sold already). I'm supposed to go get a sleeper sofa/futon tomorrow and now I don't really even want to buy anything that I'll have to move.

Back home Zeus beat the shit out of my hometown. Lightning hit a transformer and everyone's home fried. My dad lost all the surge protectors but saved the electronics even though a few plugs got smoked. THe fire and smoke detectors went off (mom said Kanda didn't know what to do and froze in front of the couch which I guess is good because he'd be easy to snare if the house was on fire...which it nearly was. My uncle lost his computers, the neighbors lost a lot. it even hit the next town over.

And in non weird and sad news, I need help from you. I'm looking for opinions, I had a title in mind for the gaslight fantasy I have planned for novel (I know, right? I'm that far ahead for a change) but while the word fits, it's also very obviously of greek origin (Xenolith). Would that bother you when the story itself isn't set on Earth and would have no reason to call a xenolith by that name?

The Proust Questionnaire

Jul. 11th, 2017 08:27 am
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 In honor of Proust's birthday yesterday (yeah yeah it's belated), my answers to the Proust Questionnaire:

1. What is your idea of perfect happiness?  Being rootless with no home and traveling out west with my husband and pets. Basically, I want a gypsy caravan with my loved ones that never stops. I'm a nomad at heart. I never ever want to come home. Home is within. 

2. What is your greatest fear?  It's a cheery toss up between death and going to Hell. Runner ups include: being electrocuted, driving, making change, and bears. 

3. What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?  Being hot headed and proud. I go there all the time, but I hate it about myself. 

4. What is the trait you most deplore in others?  Prudery

5. Which living person do you most admire?  My husband, Kelly. He has endless patience, and he is so kind. He makes it look like a cakewalk.  

6. What is your greatest extravagance?  Hah!  Everything about me is extravagant.  5+ dollar coffee every single day or all my time going to me?  I’m a bit of hedonist and everything is a bit over the top. I
 have a lot of extravagances which is why I don't have kids.  

7. What is your current state of mind?  I live in a constant state of 
Ouiser Boudreaux. I'm Ouiser after huffing essential oils today, though.  That state of mind is like a buoy bobbing on the ocean if you're wondering.   

8. What do you consider the most overrated virtue? Frugality or tact 

9. On what occasion do you lie? If you invite me anywhere, I'm most likely going to lie to get out of it at some point because of anxiety and depression. I'm the friend that flakes.  

10. What do you most dislike about your appearance?  Not that much, actually. I guess my thighs or super long ski like feet? Overall, I'm great with how I look.  I love my teeny baby sometimes lazy eye. I've become attached to my crowded big horse teeth.  I recently have embraced my plump arms that remind me of how much I loved squishing and kneading at my Grandma's when I was little. Yeah, I think I have babe status besides like 10 silver gray hairs that annoy me. It's liberating to love yourself.  

11. Which living person do you most despise? I'm not a fan of the current "President", but more so I despise the people like Sarah Huckabee Sanders and Paul Ryan who have the nerve to try to justify this as normal, and in my opinion, are putting party over country. 

12. What is the quality you most like in a man?  When I was young, I always said creativity, but I didn't know what I needed. When I fell in love with Kelly, I came to realize it was kindness. 

13. What is the quality you most like in a woman?  Brashness 

14. Which words or phrases do you most overuse? "Awwwwwww, Hell."  My husband will tell you I say it just like Nick Nolte. 

15. What or who is the greatest love of your life? My husband, Kelly.  People say that stuff, but I'm truly mad about him. He's everything. I hover around him all the time with anxiety that something will happen to him. I wish I could lock him in the house or be in his pocket all the time. I know that sounds creepy, but I'm creepy. 

16. When and where were you happiest? Anytime with sunshine and warmth and a brief respite from my anxiety. When my mind is quiet, I am happiest.  

17. Which talent would you most like to have? I wish I could paint or be a fat ballet dancer. After I watch ballet, I try to do moves in the house which I feel are beautiful, but I'm sure look hysterical. If I ever get to Heaven, I would love to be a fat ballet dancer up there. You all better come watch me. 

18. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? I wish I could get over my driving phobia. 

19. What do you consider your greatest achievement? This is the most difficult question so far. Getting a piece published that was deeply personal in a book?  Maybe just the fact that I continue to get up every day when I live in a brain that frequently hums with suffocating, unending fear. I live with a body and brain constantly elevated to red level terror alert. It sounds dramatic, but when you think about death and fear most of every day, continuing to exist is a victory. 

20. If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be? I
 hope a monk or someone to be left in peace to study and focus on something more than myself. I want never ending quiet and a higher calling. 

21. Where would you most like to live? New Mexico 

22. What is your most treasured possession?  Letters and cards that Kelly has given me over the years/my book collection.  It's a tie.  

23. What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery? Networking and/or icebreakers 

24. What is your favorite occupation? I wish I could do data entry all day long. Just tuck me in a closet with my own music or podcasts to listen to and no one around and endless amounts of data to enter. To most that would sound like boring hell, but for me, I would love nothing more. Unfortunately, I was born in the wrong period, and now, mostly people enter everything directly into the computer anyway so it's not needed. 

25. What is your most marked characteristic?  Being tell all. 
I have no secrets.  I'm an open book about everything.  I'm pretty passionate, too.  

26. What do you most value in your friends? Those who stick with me because it's not easy to be my friend. 

27. Who are your favorite writers? I could go on for paragraphs about this: Colette, Anais Nin, Elizabeth Bowen, Donna Tartt...I'm recently really getting into Faulkner. 

28. Who is your hero of fiction?   Léa from Chéri and Vinca from The Ripening Seed

29. Which historical figure do you most identify with? Marie Antoinette for her hedonism, love of leisure, and pugs 

30. Who are your heroes in real life?  People like my friend Natalie who seem to have this endless fountain of positivity  and joy and patience. No matter how stressful things are, she always seems to have time to give to people and without resentment! Women and men who choose to love themselves when society and/or the media tells them they're unworthy.  Hillary Clinton, who keeps getting knocked down and kicked in the teeth but always gets back up. My parents, of course.  

31. What are your favorite names? Cecilia and other names that sound old fashioned

32. What is it that you most dislike? the entire Hell that is Sam's with all of disgusting humanity clotted in front of the sample stands stuffing their faces, huge neck holes and thin shirts (the quality of today's clothing), and people singing happy birthday

33. What is your greatest regret? I don't know. There are many. Not applying myself in college. Being an asshole to my brother when we were young. Being unkind when I knew better.  

34. How would you like to die? Very, very old in my sleep 

35. What is your motto? I
 don't do inspirational posters, corny Hallmark cards, or mottoes.  


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Because it was 11 pm by the time I got home. I drove to Athens for a writer's group meeting. It was fine back at home. I get almost to Athens when my phone goes off. Tornado! Then another flash flooding. It started bucketing down. I stayed at the diner most of the night, had a nice time anyhow.

We had the first interview and it went well. I really liked her. We have the second tomorrow for the same position. I am open minded about the next one even though she's a friend of the one faculty member who's a GIANT pain in the ass. But I'd be very happy with this woman.

Am I the last to hear about Photobucket and them holding pictures for ransom. Okay I DO get that they might have to charge to stay in business but to give no warning and then hold the photos for ransom after the fact, that's a douche canoe move. Mine seem okay but yeah I'm thinking I should go pull them all down and find something else.


Jul. 10th, 2017 08:33 pm
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Jul. 10th, 2017 11:12 am
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CONvergence happened!
I survived. Overall I had a really great time, actually.

As suspected, my many fears and anxieties were unfounded. Mostly. There were times when I felt deeply lonely and left out, and times when I felt absolutely full-stop-functionality overwhelmed, but the were reasonably easy to recognize and cope with.

I enjoyed drifting and not being attached to a specific friend group, overall, because there was less pressure to perform. I could go to a panel alone and later I'd see people and we'd chat or hang out for a while and then we'd drift off to other activities, etc. Nothing was personal. Someone could say: "Oh, I need to go see a panel/do a thing," and because there were so many things to see/do it didn't feel at all like "I'm a loser and no one wants to hang out with me" (a fear I had).

Was a super-low-key day and left me feeling a bit lonely (most people aren't there during the day on Thursday, and I was still finding a groove). I went to the greatest number of panels this day. Some of them were even good! The day started off by me sitting down early with a coffee and then getting wrapped into a three hour conversation about books with a small group of other people I didn't know. That was my first "Oh! These are my people!" moment. I had pretty long conversations with friends that were also very low-key. I had an "early night"--getting to bed by about 2:30 a.m., ultimately.

Became a super-social day. I kept running into people I knew both peripherally (not that well) and as friends. I kept having good, brief, fun conversations. I felt really *on*...until I shut off. There was a weird sort of social barrier that went up at about 6 or so. I had a friend offer to hang out and I declined, saying I just wanted to walk around a bit. And so I did that...and I had more interactions that were good and brief. When I reached a limit, the "hey, I just want to walk around a bit, I'll catch you later, okay?" line seemed very, very cool with people. They understood.

I went to a social anxiety panel on Thursday and one of the things that they said was: Sometimes anxiety can present as extroversion, because you keep flitting from group to group, and you're good for a while, but you get restless and anxious. I felt like that.

Actually, I wished I had a drink to relax me a bit--but the drink-things didn't really open until 10 (some of them 8).

I also brought and distributed a lot of my buttons. That was cool.

I dressed up as Arcanna, which is sort of a sexy cosplay but is made more modest by a lab coat. At first I felt like...I wasn't as easy to approach that way. Fewer people smiled. Fewer people said hi. A friend reassured me that lots of people were probably just hung over. Saturday early is pretty low-key anyway.

There were far fewer panels I was interested in on Saturday, too. So a lot of my day was walking-walking (which I like). I got about 20k steps on my fitbit. I volunteered for a mobile house of toast shift and that was SUPER fun. Performing is a different skill set than having to be social, and so flipping that switch was easy and energizing.

Also, I brought a flask for Saturday. This was a smart choice! Not that I recommend drinking large quantities, but a few sips from the flask in the late afternoon *really* upped my enjoyment of things like being still and people-watching (without that persistent "I'm a loser no one likes me and they only talk to me because they feel obligated" feeling). I was in a much mellower, happier place with a bit of chemical (alcohol) assistance*.

Once the night stuff started going on I met up with various friends at various times and had tons of fun being tipsy and flirty and walking around to various places. Saturday night was my "late" night, and I got home and to bed by about 4 a.m. (The advantage to commuting is that I didn't actually drink that much all weekend, overall--no hangovers, yay!--but on Saturday it meant that it became a late night to account for the drinks I did have.)

I wasn't going to go Sunday, but friends were meeting up to take a picture and were bringing their kids, so I brought Nadia for a few hours. Mostly I was overly-tired and stressed out, and 2 year olds are hard to manage at things like this. But it gave D a break.

Also, I dislike seeing the end of things. I don't like going to the State Fair on the final day--there's a sadness about things still going on, but lots of stuff being packed up and taken away.

Overall it was a good-to-great experience. The low points were brief in the relative sense.
I'm missing a lot of stuff in this little recap. But it's a bit of a whirlwind experience, really.

*It's easy for me to go to a bar and not drink. To go to a party and not drink (well, depending on how well I know people and how overwhelmed I am at the outset). But I have an AA checkbox relationship with alcohol in this way: I like to have a drink (not get drunk or have lots of drinks) when I'm alone or alone-in-a-social-setting. I like to have a glass of wine while watching my favorite show. I liked sipping from the flask and walking around a little bit looser and less worried about the wheels of anxiety spinning in my own head. AA says this is an alcoholic warning sign (only one of many, granted) but still. It seems sort of judgey that this is a metric of alcoholism--drinking "alone" vs. drinking as a social experience. WTF, AA? Or maybe there is reasoning behind it that is beyond arbitrary.

Every idiot in Ohio was on the road

Jul. 9th, 2017 10:36 pm
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From the morons driving 45 in a 70 mph zone on I-70, to the person coming up the southbound lane into traffic in Steubenville (I know why he was doing it. That is usually a northbound lane but it's closed because the ramp onto 22/30 to Pittsburgh is closed and the damn detour is like 8 miles long and I bet all the locals cut that lane and go around the barrier because this is like the third time for this), to the people who kept randomly pulling out in front of me and going slow. For the love of God if you're going to pull out in front of me go FAST.

I'm no longer going to Gettysburgh on the way back from Rhode Island. I decided to fly. It's a 9 hour drive even without stopping. It would probably take me 12. So I'm going to fly there (Yes Mom I see United is cheaper than Southwest but those people are horrible) and I'll be renting a car.

BUT it's through expedia and literally half the cost of getting it direct. So everyone cross your fingers for me (since expedia is another one selling you stuff and then saying we're not liable if the other party backs out).

I made it to OH fine. It's actually a beautiful day. I have the windows on and my 80 year old Westinghouse fan going.

I'll probably do my writerly ways tomorrow as I still have a lot of unpacking to do and I'm tired.

Strange coincidences

Jul. 9th, 2017 12:00 am
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I've had a lot of those this year. I'm not sure what it means. Today's was I found THe Crow with Brandon Lee on Ovation last night. I haven't seen that in forever (okay I own it but that disc hasn't been in the machine in years) and then today Mom asked me to clean off a shelf in my closet and take that crap with me to OH to either keep or sell and up there was a bound version of The Crow autographed and with a cd full of music J O'Barr wrote. I haven't seen that in, god nearly 25 years. I put it in a box and brought it here when I left Cleveland after graduating med school and it's been in that closet ever since. That's a bit shameful.

Mom of course says look it up on ebay and sell it. As if I'm selling my Crow stuff. I did look it up. Lots of stuff in the 100$ and up range but who knows if anyone is buying.

I'm heading back to OH to interview those candidates. Please send me some good wishes. This could be a bad bad week.

Frustration I am yours

Jul. 7th, 2017 11:00 pm
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Today was supposed to be me hitting a sheet sale and working on finalizing my trip. Instead I decided to call my health insurance because that Dana in Texas is STILL having all her shit charged on my account and in the last month it was nearly 5 grand. In the meantime that fucking insurance took away my long term insulin and subtituted and older less good one (and my sugar is now back up around 250) due to cost. For what they paid on an account that is NOT mine they could have paid for my lantus for two years.

SO I talk to one and she accidentally (or on purpose) cut me off. I talk to a guy next and explain it and I tell them that Med 4 Home found out the issue months ago when I called them about charging on my account. The other Dana's freaking medicare/medicaid has MY insurance as her secondary. This shouldn't take more than 10 minutes to uncouple them. I insist this time on a manager.

TWO HOURS LATER I'm still on hold. IN the meantime he's called UTMB Hospital in Galveston which lied to him about anyone ever calling about this (I've called twice my insurance has called one in the past), called the fraud department (who said what they said to me last time, a billing error isn't fraud but it should be when they KNOW it's an issue and have been still doing it for nearly 2 years).

FInally I get the supervisor, tell her all over again. She says I'll call you back. I expect never to hear from her as that's their usual MO. She did call and say they'll be taking all the charges off. I said that's fine but you've been doing that. WHAT are you doing to stop this? IN theory she's going to fix it. She even gave me the other Dana's account # which is probably a violation. I DID point out this going on is in fact a MAJOR HIPPA violation because I know every health issue this woman has.

Want to bet in a few weeks they'll send me a letter saying that I still owe on my copay because they counted HER stuff to mine? Also how hard is it that the charges that aren't mine are the ones in TEXAS? One of them (the one who hung up) told me to tell HR to give me a new account with them. Um...

Dad’s trying to break my heart with this house . He’s right. It’s perfect for me. It has such beautiful wood work. It’s cute. It’s affordable. So what’s the heart breaking part? It’s in Gallipolis. That means it’s far from my friends, from Columbus etc etc and I don’t care what he says about the neighborhood looking nice, it is but two blocks one way and there’s nothing but drug dealers and two the other, you see hookers (I used to work nights at the theater near here). And what I can’t tell him is that I hate the ‘feel’ of the town. To me it feels like a battlefield, that strange sense of wrongness about it. But I don’t want to live in town. I don’t understand why my parents don’t get this. If I want a house on top of me, I’d stay in my freaking apartment. Of course what I really want is this house out in the country and that just isn’t to be found which makes me sad.

I did manage to find two more things to do in RI and that the hotel's website (not trivago or any of those) has my room for 20$ cheaper so I'm calling them tomorrow. Also when I looked at the casino that's across from my hotel. It doesn't have it's own hotel but gives 20% off my hotel if I get a player's card. Done. I might be eating at the casino as it's reasonable and I can tell Newport might be way out of my price range.


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